Or: "How Blogs Keep Distracting Me I'm Supposed To Be Revising"
It is a truth, universally acknowledged, that people don't like attention seekers. Myself included. We often find of our peers that they do irrational things to keep the focus of conversation (and, oddly enough, attention) on them. Whilst doing this, they often seem oblivious to the needs and qualities of others.
However, we may not really be in a position to judge. It is my view that nearly everyone attention-seeks to degree.
We accept that it is a fundamental need/want of human beings to be liked, respected and accepted by their peers. I have never met/been aware of ANYONE who does not have that basic need. 100% of the time, when people say they don't care about whether other people like them, they either a) are blatantly lying in an attempt to appear cool, b) haven't thought it through or c) are referring to a particular type of respect from a particular group of people.
So the point is, everyone wants people to like them. And if you want to get people to like you, you sort of need to get them to pay attention to you first. Which is why everyone who has the confidence to be an attention seeker is, in their own way, an attention seeker.
Of course, when we talk about "attention seekers," we aren't talking about everyone who has ever sought the attention of anyone else. We mean the loud, obnoxious types who do excessive amounts of stupid stuff and run around with proverbial neon signs saying "LOOK AT ME!", or the pretentious bastards who refuse to talk about anyone or anything except themselves and their own achievements.
But really, these people just have different tactics of achieving what we all want from other people. In my opinion, we only find it annoying because they're being blatant about it, and perhaps because they are reminding us of one of our less convenient wants.
So, I'm not really sure what the point of that was. Maybe just another statement against over-judgementality.
Happy websurfing!
It is a truth, universally acknowledged, that people don't like attention seekers. Myself included. We often find of our peers that they do irrational things to keep the focus of conversation (and, oddly enough, attention) on them. Whilst doing this, they often seem oblivious to the needs and qualities of others.
However, we may not really be in a position to judge. It is my view that nearly everyone attention-seeks to degree.
We accept that it is a fundamental need/want of human beings to be liked, respected and accepted by their peers. I have never met/been aware of ANYONE who does not have that basic need. 100% of the time, when people say they don't care about whether other people like them, they either a) are blatantly lying in an attempt to appear cool, b) haven't thought it through or c) are referring to a particular type of respect from a particular group of people.
So the point is, everyone wants people to like them. And if you want to get people to like you, you sort of need to get them to pay attention to you first. Which is why everyone who has the confidence to be an attention seeker is, in their own way, an attention seeker.
Of course, when we talk about "attention seekers," we aren't talking about everyone who has ever sought the attention of anyone else. We mean the loud, obnoxious types who do excessive amounts of stupid stuff and run around with proverbial neon signs saying "LOOK AT ME!", or the pretentious bastards who refuse to talk about anyone or anything except themselves and their own achievements.
But really, these people just have different tactics of achieving what we all want from other people. In my opinion, we only find it annoying because they're being blatant about it, and perhaps because they are reminding us of one of our less convenient wants.
So, I'm not really sure what the point of that was. Maybe just another statement against over-judgementality.
Happy websurfing!
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